Recognize Your Outdated Flirting Moves

July 29, 2014

We all like to think we know how to navigate human interaction fairly well. That we could, at any point in time, talk to a member of the opposite sex without coming away feeling like we’ve just humiliated ourselves.

The general point? If she keeps eye contact and is pleasant, continue on and ask her out; if she is avoiding eye contact and being short with what she says, move on. And don’t lose confidence — you’ll have better luck next time. Perhaps.

Ironically, the mistake a lot of men make when it comes to approaching women is simply fearing the worst.

This isn’t always true, but once you start believing it is, you’ll immediately be on the defensive, trying to think of solutions to problems that really don’t even exist. The last thing you want to do is see any woman as a ‘challenge’ or as though you need to learn any ‘tricks‘ to persuade potential partners to talk to you.

Not everywhere you go is a good pickup zone – you have to thoughtfully work out where you can actually approach women you don’t know. There’s no point striking up conversation with a potential partner if they’re already in a situation where they don’t feel like flirting; you’re dooming yourself to failure. A prime example of a potential no-go area is the gym.

Going out with your friends is fun, dancing is fun, and drinking is fun. Although it might not be what you want to hear, the truth is that often these are the most common reasons women will be together on a night out.

Sometimes groups of friends will be happy to include you in the party, but be prepared.

Chances are that most people won’t be that interested in hanging out with strangers when they’re out to have a laugh with their friends.

And if you get the vibe that you’ve interrupted a night that you’re not welcome on then just amicably excuse yourself to the bar and carry on with your night.

Being with a man who is in control is important to women. Most of us don’t want to be with a guy we have to forcefully hydrate during a night out, help go to the bathroom or keep from getting into brawls at the bar.

And if you’re really drunk, you’re also way more likely to get distracted from the woman you’re trying to talk to by other women, slur your words and just be generally unapologetic and annoying.