The Secret Behind Being Confident

October 24, 2014

Confident, sharp man

Confidence is the key to becoming successful at pretty much anything in life. This includes approaching women, giving a killer presentation, and starting a business, just to name a few.

Reason being that women only want to do date guys who are sure of themselves, people only want to listen to a presenters who sound like they know what they’re talking about, and investors only want to invest in companies run by competent leaders.

Confidence is not necessarily something we are all born with, but definitely something everyone can obtain. And here is how…

Body Language, Clothes, Diction

Many times your body language can say more about your confidence level than any form of verbal communication. Always make eye contact: not looking someone in the eye shows insecurity.

Walk confidently and maintain good posture. The way you literally carry yourself can exponentially increase how much confidence you project.

Guys who are insecure often worry about “over-dressing,” while confident guys never fear such a thing. You should always strive to be one of the best dressed men in the room.

Wear fitted clothes that reflect maturity and style. But be sure to learn the difference between dressing sharp and dressing flashy.

The ability to speak clearly and assertively is a sign of confidence. If you are doing it correctly, then you shouldn’t have to repeat yourself often, but also make sure you don’t come off as overly “loud.”

Rambling only makes you sound unsure of the subject of discussion. While you should do your best to expand your vocabulary, you should also become more selective about which words you use.

Talk & Listen

Arrogant guys brag excessively. Confident guys do it just enough, and they do it humbly. If you have an accolade that you want to mention in a conversation, ask a leading question that will introduce the topic.

You want to talk about your awesome job? Ask the person of interest what they do for a living so that they can ask you the question in return.

Talking too much is a sign of arrogance and/or insecurity. Listening more than you speak projects confidence for two reasons: First, you’re confident with your word choices and don’t need to say too much, and second, you’re confident enough to let the other person speak without having to immediately jump in.