The Science Of Dating
When you ask a girl out on a first date, naturally you want everything to go as perfectly and as smoothly as possible. But when things don’t go as you’ve planned them – which happens every now and then to all of us – suddenly you feel like you’re having a job interview in a lame bar. If you want to avoid this, simply follow what science tells you!
The Romance Research
Believe it or not, there actually are people who have dedicated their careers to finding out how communication, relationships, romance, and love work, all in the name of science.
For example, your opening line shouldn’t be a practiced one.
The Personality and Individual Differences journal published a study that claims rehearsed lines often have a negative effect on the date, while personal, top-of-the-mind questions like “What do you do in your free time” will get your date out of their comfort zone and will let you get to know them better.
Our friends at the romance science community have also proven that too much eye contact can be intimidating. You don’t want to seem aggressive, so don’t turn your first date into a staring contest – occasional glances and a 7-second look in the eye every now and then should do the trick.
Finally, let’s not forget the physical part of any date, including first ones. A study from 2007 explains that there are three different types of touches: friendly, which includes shoulder taps and handshakes, plausible deniability, which refers to waist and forearm contact, and finally nuclear, which consists of face touching. If you want your date to end on a good note, try to be between the latter two spots.